| Location | England |
| Age | 91 years |
| Cause of Death | C-Diff (Clostridium Difficile) |
| Date of Birth | 23/12/1914 |
| Date of Death | 17/12/2006 |
| Visitors | 707 since 11/11/2007 |
| Creator |
Cause of death: NHS negligence.
Place of birth: Workington, Cumberland. (Now known as Cumbria.)
This is about my Mum (nee Wilson) and Dad, who were both buried in 2007. My Dad was the first to pass away, on December 17th 2006. Although he was getting on in years, he had the will to live and still lived at home with my Mum. They were fairly independant and had often said that they would receive their telegrams from the Queen. This was not to be as my Dad was rushed to hospital when he contracted septacemia, caused by an incompetent district agency nurse. He was taken to hospital on October 17th, 2006. Whilst in there, he contracted the hospital infections, nosocomial pneumonia, MRSA and C.diff. , all caused through lack of hygiene and filthy hospital conditions. We had to watch him deteriorate in great discomfort and pain, it was heartbreaking. He died on December 17th, 6 days before his birthday. My Mum was absolutely devastated, she lost the will to live and I swear she mentally died the same time as my Dad. Shortly afterwards, she became ill herself and passed away on May 15th 2007, mostly of a broken heart. My parents were totally devoted to each other and couldnt live without each other. In my opinion, the hospital are guilty of manslaughter - for both of them. My heart is breaking too and I miss them so much. They were not just my parents, they were my best friends and mentors. All I received from the hospital was a letter of apology. Saying sorry did not bring them back. It does not justify their total negligence. My life has changed so much, I am tormented by the unspeakable suffering they endured and guilt that I should have done something to prevent what happened. To lose and bury both parents in the same year, five months apart was a painful, double edged sword.
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My Dad was a quiet, reserved, loving, caring and generous man who gave so much and took so little. He was a true gentleman with impeccable manners and never complained. He even said 'Thank you' to the nurses at the hospital (the hospital which caused his death) when they gave him painful injections. He was amazing and always put his family before himself.
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My Mum was a very caring, kind and considerate lady who absolutely adored children. She loved her garden, plants and flowers and dedicated her married life to being a wife, Mother to three and a homemaker. Later in life she became a Grandmother and Great-Grandmother to three. The youngest was named Reggie after my Dad. He was born on my parents Diamond Wedding Anniversary.
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My Mum and Dad had known each other and been together for 72 years. They were kind, loving - and irreplaceable. Now reunited forever. Sleep peacefully, Mum and Dad xxx
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MUM
A Wife, Mum, Nan, and great Nan too
This is the legacy we have from you.
You gave us love, you were always there,
You never failed to give us care.
You held our hands, you hugged us tight,
You kept us safe, by day and night.
A stronger person would be hard to find
And in your heart, you were always kind.
You fought for us all in one way or another,
Not just as a wife, or just as a Mother.
For all of us you gave your best,
Now the time has come for you to rest.
So go in peace, youβve earned your sleep
Your love in our hearts, weβll eternally keep.
DAD
Our relationship was special, Dad
I valued it with pride
But I never knew just how special
Until the day you died.
I remember all the fun times
That you and I have known,
But now that you have left this world
I just feel so alone.
Your photographs I look at
Time and time again,
For just a moment you are there -
But then returns the pain.
I will always have my memories,
They will go on and on,
But my life will never be the same
Now that you are gone.
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Amazing grace, How sweet the sound
That saved a wretch like me
I once was lost, but now am found;
Was blind, but now I see.
Twas grace that taught my heart to fear,
And grace my fears relieved;
How precious did that grace appear
The hour I first believed.
Through many dangers, toils and snares,
I have already come;
Tis grace hath brought me safe thus far,
And grace will lead me home.
The Lord has promised good to me,
His word my hope secures;
He will my shield and portion be,
As long as life endures.
Yea, when this flesh and heart shall fail,
And mortal life shall cease,
I shall possess, within the veil,
A life of joy and peace.
The world shall soon dissolve like snow,
The sun refuse to shine;
But God, who called me here below,
Shall be forever mine.
When we have been there ten thousand years,
Bright shining as the sun,
We have no less days to sing Gods praise
Than when we had first begun.
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Why did you have to leave me Dad?
Why is life so short?
You once said 'Life is only a blink of the eye'
One of the many things to me you taught.
Even after all this time
I can't accept I'll never see you again
Apart from in old photographs,
Happy days when you were in no pain.
I wish I could remember those happy days
More than I remember the bad
The days near the end of your life
When you hardly looked like my Dad.
I felt your suffering, wanted to take it away.
You shouldn't have had to end your life this way.
If only I could turn back time,
I would take your suffering and make it mine
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Dad
By the old rugged cross,
You sit with a smile,
Waiting for us who
you have left for a while.
And us you have left,
With our grief and our loss,
Will meet you one day,
By that old rugged cross
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Under The Clouds
βΈ Ferna Lary Mills
I'm fascinated these days
by clouds, you see,
as they scoot across the sky.
Do they look the same
From Heaven above,
as they appear to my mortal eye?
Do they look as white
compared to angels wings
as they seem to be down here?
Or are they dusty,
gray and dim?
Not as surreal as they appear?
In my thoughts I wonder
about many things
seen from an ethereal eye.
For maybe that's what
it really takes
to thoroughly understand "why".
Why does grief
seem to take so long
and why does it cause such pain?
Why does someone
have to die
in order to live again?
Maybe my grief
is like the clouds,
and one day the hurting will stop,
when I begin
to look at it,
not from below, but from the top!
I know that God
has an order for things
designed with His own pure love.
Tears, like raindrops,
are down below,
but the Sunshine is up above.
My attempt at putting some thoughts to paper…I hope you like it! xxx
I Pledge To You.
To never take things for granted
Nor live my life in vain,
I know you wanted the best for me
You taught me to smile through the rain.
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We surely have a purpose
Although sometimes it just isn’t clear,
When you were taken away from me
The smiles just turned to tears.
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I know you are in a better place
Or so I am always told,
You deserve the very best, my angel
To stroll down streets of gold.
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I have so much to live for
There is beauty all around,
Your love and strength live on
And truly can be found…
…in the magic of a sunrise,
…the mystery of the moon
…in the raindrops that softly glisten,
…the songbird’s heavenly tune.
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There will be days that just overwhelm me
These, I will no longer dread,
Memories of old I shall draw on
We are linked by an unbreakable thread.
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I love you always and forever
These few words are used and worn,
But never will they be meaningless
I can’t wait to see you again, with the new dawn.
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βΈ Melanie Doe
♥ Grief never ends, but it changes.
♥ It’s a passage, not a place to stay,
♥ The sense of loss must give way, if we are to value the life that was lived,
♥ Grief is not a sign of weakness,
♥ Nor a lack of faith,
♥ It is the price of love…
(Anon)
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When a good person dies.
Night is coming on.
The last birds fly hurriedly to their nests.
Slowly but surely darkness takes possession of the world.
However, no sooner has darkness fallen,
than the lights begin to come on —
below us, around us, above us,
near us and far away from us —
a candle in a window, a lamp in a cellar,
a beacon in a lighthouse, a star in the sky.
And so we take heart and find our way again.
When a good person dies, darkness descends on us.
We feel lost, bereft, forlorn.
But gradually the lights begin to come on
as we recall the good deeds done by the deceased.
They spring up all over the place.
We are amazed at how much light is generated.
In this strange and beautiful light
we not only find our way,
but find the meaning of life itself.
Anon.
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†[♥]† My Grief †[♥]†
My heart does ache, the pain is there
Life's been a blur, so hard to bear.
The grief I feel, and much despair,
And say a prayer, And say a prayer.
Equivocal answers, we hear,
So many questions still unclear.
I cannot rest, I'll persevere.
I shed a tear, I shed a tear.
My love for you will never die
Upward I look, the big blue sky.
You're in Heaven, so way up high,
I wave good-bye, I wave good-bye.
Knowing you're in, a better place,
Where loved ones can hold and embrace,
'Tho the tears cascade down my face,
A state of grace, A state of grace.
Copyright Sherry 2005
Elegy for Your Absence
H.R. Hays
In that moment you sailed for all of death
Into profound oceans of silence
With long hours of sleeping pupils,
And a flock of doves caught in your dreams.
Now you are already in distant moonlight,
More yourself than in the arrows of your golden clock
Where you reckoned such a shoreless moment
For the thirst of wings that was burning on your shoulders.
You shall have vaulted seas stared at by inquietude,
Abysses in the timid solitude of your absence;
And in the night you shall have been delicate warm breeze
Close to that crumb of our amorous earth.
Long embrace of breath over the poppies
And a laugh and a song without words or music;
With a “Here I am,” glad of past wakefulness,
And a “forever” warm in the cool plain.
As you leave pressed in the arms of silence
The light of our words shall echo more clearly
And in each stanza of air an accent shall be entangled
And in each butterfly more wings shall be born to you.
Gladness of being alive for that eternal day,
Knowing yourself in the water, in the sun, and in the grass.
Among the clouds you shall make nativities of silver
And you shall discover your nest in a tree of stars.
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Adrift
Tessa Wilkinson
My anchor has lost its hold
I am adrift
My boat is going where it will
The sails are tattered and torn
The sea seems enormous and uncharted
It throws me hither and thither
Into the deepest, darkest trough of despair
Then up into the sunlight and for a while there is hope
Then back again into the darkness
Will my little craft be overwhelmed?
As the huge waves of grief engulf it, will it come up again?
And again and again?
They say 'time heals…'
Can my little boat be trimmed out with new sails?
Can it sail again into a calm harbour and put down its anchor?
Can the navigation system be mended, so I know where I am going?
In time, in time…
but not yet.
This storm has to be passed through, and then a time will come to re-enter the harbour and return to still waters.
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For Just A Moment
Copyright © 1995 by Brenda Penepent
For just a moment
I’m sure I saw
a flicker of light ahead.
Perhaps it was your smile.
Though past now, remembered,
in my heart
like the small sound of
a butterfly passing by.
No night
is so dark
that can not be brightened
with memories of you.
Raindrops carry along
your blessings from heaven
to wash away my tears
and bring me hope anew.
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